Tuesday, November 14, 2006

Clarification

Apparently I didn't make something clear in my previous post - my post wasn't about the website or the designer. It was about my over-the-top reaction (those were, in fact, my exact words) to thinking I'd been shut out...hence the little trip down memory lane. I tried to be very clear that I thought the designer was talented and that I loved her stuff and I also tried very hard to avoid saying that she should operate her site differently, because who the hell am I to judge that? I also didn't name or link her, because it wasn't about her.

One of the things that was difficult was that I couldn't post my question ("hey, is something up with Mo? I've been shut out and I don't know why") on any of the scrapping message boards I frequent because, as I've said before, I'm only a little bit of an idiot, and I knew it would turn into a Mo-bashing thread* and I really didn't want to be responsible for that. I couldn't figure out how to ask because I couldn't get into the forums on the website to e-mail anyone. And any hints I could find indicated that she (or cousin Jo) didn't respond when they didn't want you in; and otherwise, they were very good at responding. So when there was no response, I assumed the worst.

So, as I tried to make clear in the post below, I overreacted. I got all hurt and annoyed and I tried to figure out why.....ta da! Blog Post! (Especially on NaBloWriMo!) See what I mean about overreacting? Apparently it wasn't about me at all, and I shouldn't have taken it personally. One of my favorite parts of the "Four Agreements" is the one that says, "Don't Take Anything Personally," precisely because it's so hard for me. I'm A LOT better at it than I used to be, though, I swear.

As far as I know, this blog has absolutely no following in the digital scrapping community. I'm really surprised that she found me, but I knew there was that chance because I probably put my website on my application or in an e-mail.

It's her website - she can do what she wants, of course. I guess people have hacked into her website and screwed it up royally before, and that's one reason she's so protective.

And, it's my blog, and I can write what I want to write about - my hang-ups and neuroses are prime fodder. I am sorry if she felt hurt that I wrote about her triggering them. Obviously, she's been ill, that's why I didn't hear anything, and now that I know that, I won't bother her anymore. Mo, thanks for replying, I do hope you feel better soon.

*Lots of precedence for this - apparently lots of people have very heated feelings about the way she runs her site. I didn't understand it until now.

8 comments:

Sarah O. said...

This reminds me of when I inadvertantly offended a bunch of UFO enthusiasts. The huffy comments I got! Goodness, I meant no offense.

No kidding, I just might blog something indelicate about alien abductions just to bump my numbers up a bit.

Boobless Brigade Master said...

I love "The Four Agreements".
Awesome book!
There's a second book similar to it, by the same author about relationships...equally as awesome!

Beastarzmom said...

She found your entry pretty damn fast, though, don't you think? If she could find your blog that fast while sick, perhaps she could have simply written a quick email?
hmmmm...just food for thought...

Anonymous said...

Beast? Amen.

Lunasea said...

Beastarzmom: I'm totally referring to you as "Beast" from now on.

since we're all about clarification here: Be A Starz Mom is my sister. It took me a while to figure out where her code name came from, and for a long time I thought it was "Bear Star Mom." Which makes even less sense.

Lunasea said...

Oh, and yeah, I get what you're saying, but this isn't about Mo - she's said she's sick, I'm fine with that and if she's willing to accept my explanation that this really isn't about bashing her methods, I'm good.

Beastarzmom said...

Yeah, yeah, la la la, [insert charlie brown tacher/adult noise here].
That's just cuz you're a much nicer person than I am. I think the response reflects the person and that's true even if it's me causing the problem. But I can understand being stupid and forgetting things. I can't understand using a lame excuse for one thing but being johnny on the spot to respond to a blog entry.
Just MY humble opinion. My sister is a MUCH nicer and more tolerant person than I.
Clearly.

(and I think I'm totally referring to myself as BEAST too! I love it! It works! - Thanks, MamaLee!)

Anonymous said...

Oh my, I've started something, huh? LOL I tend to give others the benefit of the doubt too often at times, but being married to this big Italian guy, who is assertive and confident.. and takes no crap...has been an influence on my own attitudes! But I digress...

I'm all for being nice to people. I just think actions speak a LOT louder than words. And I'm with BEAST on this one.

And I really saw BEAST at first when I saw your name, sistergirl! (and your welcome!) Now I need to check out YOUR blog, too! Nice to meet you both. Have a great day! xoxo

 
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